What’s the One Thing Every Mother Needs in Her Life? Discover How to Prevent Mom Burnout!
Do you know why mother’s get burnt out? If you have been feeling exhausted, tired and overwhelmed lately, I have something to tell you. This post is about unleashing your inner joy: How adding one essential activity to your routine can transform your mom life.
Why is being a mom so stressful?
So you spent the whole day running after your children, making sure there was food on the table and everyone had clean clothes and that the whole family was comfortable. You hadn’t slept well the night before, even barely had a good breakfast but there was no time to relax.
Moms have to teach the kids, bathe them, shuttle them here and there, run errands, appointments to keep, bills to pay, a million tabs open in your head all day to the night. And then when the kids went to bed… you were so SO exhausted that you just couldn’t relax.
You want to go to sleep, but you just want some time to yourself first.
‘I need some me-time and then I will sleep’, you say.
You need some sort of motivation – something to cheer you up, make you smile… or at least look forward to the next day… and your morning routine.
So you get on your phone and you scroll Instagram, or binge watch a couple of videos until late at night past everyones bedtime… because hey, tomorrow it will be the same grind.
Why does motherhood feel so hard? What’s the reason?
The next day, you aren’t able to get out of bed because of the late night sleep. But was it the late night that really burnt you out?
You blame it on the scrolling and call it screen-time addiction. You tell yourself you should stop “zoning out” during the day by picking your phone and chatting up with your friends while doing household chores. You want to control your habit.
But was it really screen time that led to your burning out? You question your choices.
You want your husband to pitch in with the house work, or at least the kids to do their share. Why does it always have to be you who is picking up after everyone, you say… You feel like a servant. You hate the dirty house.
But was it the dirty house that led to your burnt out?
Your family calls and tell you about their troubles. You are always solving people’s problems, you say. It is getting on your nerves. Why are other people’s responsibilities spilling into your home? You say you have had it enough. You can’t take it any more.
Was it other people who led to your burnt out?
You hardly go out for holidays. Vacations seem so much work. From planning to lugging after people… and it is just a change in destination after all.You will still be doing the same thing so you decide to stay home.
Summer is breaking your back. Having the kids at home… it is such a chaos. Kids are always after you that they are bored, or you are bothered by them being on their screens all the time.
Is kids being home leading to your burnt out?
It is none of those.
The real reason why moms are burnt out
There should be something in life that you pull out and call it your own. There should be something you can say ‘This is me. This is who I am.‘
Ask yourself: what is it that I do for yourself in a day?
Moms need to have their own something – hobbies, passion projects, entertainment, ideas to love – anything that gives them the feeling that they can be their own person.
It doesn’t matter if you are stay at home mother, or a WAHM or a career woman, you need some hobbies. What DO YOU do for yourself?
There are so many different hobbies that moms can do
May be you don’t have enough time through the day… but at night – before bed, you like to crochet two lines of that throw for your couch…
Through the week – once or twice, may be you can take out some time to work on your own favorite thing?
May be every morning, you like to go for a run before everyone wakes up.
Or you like baking cakes or sewing random little pouches from colourful scraps you got at Target.
May be, you like painting murals on the walls of your children’s room or you like decorating your kitchen with handmade clay.
Mothers are creative souls. Possibly you like designing children’s printables or making kids crafts or handmade cards…
Moms need activities. They enjoy them. We are the ones who carry our cultures from one generation to the next.
We cook because we know how to cook. We make things because we can. Every one of us are born creative. We have ideas and look for inspiration everywhere we go.
Mothers get depressed when they aren’t allowed me-time.
The real reason why mothers are exhausted are because we are always serving others. The question every mother asks is “Where is me in my life?”
How many mothers have you heard who say : “I was once so creative, full of joy. I feel like I have lost myself now.“
I hear this all the time. I have students who join me because they want to know how they can have more time for themselves. What do you think they want to do with more time?
Because they burnt out by serving OTHERS all the time.
The easiest way to beat burnt out… is to take out time for yourself.
Do the things you enjoy doing. Find hobbies. Do something with your hands.
Have you not read the famous meme: I craft so I don’t kill people.
When mothers have hobbies – even when it is unrelated to crafts, it gives us a chance to unravel our nerves. We get a chance to let out that frustration and find some peace.
Have a hobby. Discover your interests. Learn about what you enjoy. Talk about what you enjoy. Share the love with others. Find a community of like minded hobbyists. That s the easiest way to find like-minded friends.
Mothers often talk about being lonely in their season of life… but when you have a hobby, you find women of all ages and backgrounds who come together to connect. May be you don’t know someone who has small kids, and definitely nobody around who has an autistic kid… but you can find someone who runs with you.
So now… over to you: what will you take away from this article? How will you beat mom burn out? What are your next action steps?
How I can help you with eliminating burn out
If you have read so far, I am thinking you probably are looking for a permanent solution to your problem. You may have read many articles over the web and be a little worried about how you can actually implement all those ideas…
I help Muslim mothers beat overwhelm, manage their time better, allowing you to efficiently organize your life to create more time for yourself, your family, and your faith.
So, whether you are a new mom, or mom of multiple children – stay at home mom or WAHM, work outside or run a business from home , even whether you homeschool or public school. If you want to know how to manage a home with little babies and toddlers, create better home-systems, follow your dreams AND have time for rest and relationships, you have come to the right place. I can help.
I teach an online time-management course called Everyday Productivity for Muslim Mothers.
Everyday Productivity For Muslim Mothers is a life-changing, scientific research and Islamic teachings based, time-management system that is proven to help you bring back balance in your life to be a happier, more intentional and organized mother you always wanted to be.
EPMM is a time management course designed specifically for Muslim Mothers. In just 30 days, we teach you how to easily create the right habits that will help you beat overwhelm.